I can’t stand a liar and I need people to be honest with me for my complete sanity. Yes I have lied before for different reasons. But this isn’t about me so I’m going to get out of my feelings, and focus on my growth (hehe). Honestly being able to be truthful with people you care about or even a random stranger, shows that you respect them. Respect goes a long way when you are building a relationship or encounter. But we all know that Honesty doesn’t come easy for a lot of the world including You and me. Honesty only is difficult when we realize the truth may hurt and in my opinion most lies are shared out of love (did I just say that?). Most people Lie because we don’t actually understand what it means to be Honest.
To be honest is like giving away a Kidney
For example: When someone is trying to be honest with you, how do you receive it? Are you sensitive, aggressive, on guard, or are you completely receptive? I have come to realize that this is one major factor in why people are not honest, they are afraid of the reaction of the other person.
A different angle: If you are trying to be honest with someone, remember that they are probably different than you in problem solving (important factor). That person should be free to react with any emotion they may feel( non-abusive of course). This means that you should allow the other person to be themselves and don’t try to control the way they receive your honesty.
Now we are here: After you have given a person your honesty, Be ready for what they have to say. Prepare to receive their feedback. Think about if you were the person someone had to be honest with, you would want to be heard and acknowledged.
A different angle: The hardest thing to do when you feel like you are valid and just plain right, is to listen. So be quiet and listen, even if you feel they are wrong. This helps the other person get how they fell out into the open. I consider this the selfless step in honesty (also the humble step for some of us).
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You Have to hear this: When I am being Honest with someone, I focus in my heart and in my mind why I am going to them. I always try to remember to approach people with love and I hold on to that when I am being honest. It’s like my motivation to be honest and encourages me not to be scared.
A different angle: Never ever, ever, ever ever approach some one with malicious intent, it just won’t go well. If you are solid in the fact that you are honest with love or care in your heart then you won’t have as much trouble being honest. You will have stayed true to yourself and given the other person the respect to be true to who they are.
I’m not the teacher, I am the student just like you,. But in the little Journey of mine, I have learned that I can’t change other people and their reactions. All I can do it control me and what I give to the world. There will always be times when being honest is difficult, but we have to figure out in which the intent of being honest it given. There will be time when it’s wise to not say anything at all, judge that for yourself. You will get it wrong, but be willing to forgive yourself and others if you do. Life is about sharing what we know and what we have learned with one another. So tell me what it’s like when someone is honest with you. How do you react? Do you feel it’s ok to lie to help save another person’s feelings?