You have a new boo, and y’all are texting all the time of the night, just all in the grove. Or you could be locked down (as the kids say), married and all happy and what not. But your main form of communication is through texting. You know that is what folks are doing nowadays. I’m not going to lie, texting is more convenient for me too. In fact, sometimes I look at a call coming through and suck my teeth and wonder why they just couldn’t send a text. But is it really healthy for texting to be the main form of communication in a committed relationship?
What Happens When You text your Man Over talking?
You should know by now that relationships whether romantic or platonic, are all about connection and communication. So when you decide that texting with your partner is your first option, you could be creating emotional separation between the two of you. People need physical touch, and verbal communication in order to feel connected or in order to understand the connection (catch that and write it down). Texting often about important or simple topics too often does not help you deepen your connection with your partner. I know what you’re saying, Eb, my man is not really a phone person or a big talker. That is when “training” or leading comes in. If you are in a relationship with a person who doesn’t communicate well. You are going to have to learn how to “sum up” your feelings and thoughts( compromise sis, compromise). Show him how communication works in short simple burst. meet him in the middle. This allows you to get to the point in verbal conversations and help to make it clear on what you are talking about. I’ve learned, people who don’t talk much don’t listen long either.
How to Utilize Texting & Still Connect Emotionally
So I know a person, she says that in her relationship, she and her spouse communicate better over text, because they are able to hear each other out. I like this, This is good. (You: but I thought you just said texting too much is bad). It is if you don’t follow through with communication. Texting your thoughts and feelings is the same thing as writing them down. it actually helps you to clear your head and “release the pressure.” As long as you both write your feelings out or discuss. your plans verbally, texting is not a bad thing completely. You must continue to connect because trust me, you will notice the lack of connection.
Because I’m an amazing human, I’m going to give you two texting scenarios.
- You and your boo just finished getting your feelings out over text and cleared the hostile air. Now it’s time to follow through with the connection. When you connect in person, it’s important to verbalize the points of reconciliation or have a plan to compromise and move forward. Keep it short, clear and sincere. Try your best to end on a good note, by voicing your gratitude to atleast be able to talk it out. (I’m still working on this myself, Sometimes I just want to be mad lol).
- Your love, text you or you text him and says, “be ready at 8, I want to take you out.” You text back something cute and you two go on a date. Sis! no. Make sure that when you two are together, you express your feelings about being asked on a spontaneous date. Nothing too big, “Just I’m glad you asked me out babe, I like that,” or “I feel special.” seal it with physical touch. Incase you missed the point connection is important. Make sure you’re connecting
Ok girl, I’m out, but let me know are you a serial texter or do you prefer talking?