What Kind of tools do you really need to to learn how to be a successful stay at home mom? Is it really that hard?
I have been a stay at home mom for almost 7 years, and it was not apart of my plan…like at all. I had no clue I would marry my husband, have our baby and be scared out of my mind, at the thought of different strangers handling my baby. But honestly that is not the major reason I was a stay at home mom. My husband is military and I wanted stability for my son and plus the amount of money we would spend in childcare was outrageous because of the area we lived in. At that point we didn’t give childcare a second thought, we just fell in our own routine. I then learned how to be a successful stay at home mom, MY WAY.
People will judge you, suck it up
I can not tell you the countless times, someone has said to me, “it must be nice to get to sit at home while your husband works.” Shoot, even while writing this post I feel the need to set a few ignorant people straight. But I won’t, this post is for us moms. There will be people who question your position in life and in return it will cause you to question yourself. Don’t let it get to you. Remember why you are doing it. Some people don’t choose to be stay at home moms willingly, But some do. The main point is to be confident in your decision. People are going to talk about you, call you lazy, and wonder why. Who cares, you can’t control them.
Tips on How to be a Successful Stay at Home Mom…and Kill it!
Be the mom you are, not the mom she is
Listen, there are over 100 different varieties of mothers out there that some of us are thinking about now. You have the mom who won’t let her kid “hold her back”. The mom who doesn’t believe in vaccinations. Also the mom who is a clean freak. Then there is the mom who doesn’t clean at all. Oh and we can’t forget about the working mom. It doesn’t matter what category you fall into or what category you don’t like. What matters is that you do the best that you can do. Also it’s about the way you love and care for your children the way they need you to. Don’t compare yourself to another mom. Every household does not operate the same and it’s up to you to do yours The way you please. Just make sure your kids are safe and healthy (healthy is optional 🙂 just kidding ).
You need time off too
I can not tell you how many moms are out there are stressed and on the edge of having a nervous breakdown. Being a successful mom does not mean burning yourself out, or proving to others that you can do it all. You, your spouse and family have to come to an agreement of when you set aside time off for you. Self Care is important and Honestly, you may be doing self care all wrong. Like, seriously, schedule your time off. Raising a family 24-7 is hard work. Time off is important with any job and this one is no different. Find a girlfriend or another mom, and do something to relax. If you are like me, you may want to sit in the dark in complete silence. But that’s just me. Also you may be a single stay at home mom who is just simply not working at the time. Find your village or support system, and schedule your time off. If you find this is next to impossible, take your child to a free program. Such as the local library and let someone else entertain your child for an hour. No shame in that.
Create a hobby or side hustle
I don’t mean a hobby for your kids, I’m taking about something for you to do. Being successful at being a stay at home mom means finding balance and doing the best you can. With that being said, moms need an outlet and something that belongs to you. Take if from me, if you don’t have a hobby you will began to feel useless even though you do so much. Hey, I’m just being honest with you. Think about the things that you like to do and simply start. Don’t give it too much thought in the beginning, just start. If you can’t think of anything initially, you can start by volunteering somewhere for an hour a week. One year I started doing work at home jobs and mystery shopping when I had time. I called it my pocket-money.
How to be a successful stay at home mom is what you cam here for, but you don’t need me to tell you that. You already are, just focus on doing the best you can, while finding things you enjoy in between. Remember, life happens in seasons and being a stay at home mom may not last forever, so enjoy watching your children grow.
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