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her life on purpose being confident

I looked at myself today in the mirror and smiled as I put on my hat on top of my messy knotted hair. Then proceed to take my boys to the park with a smile, because this kind of confident is coming from within. I remember being in elementary school and just wanting life to speed up.  That’s how bad I was teased and picked on to the point where I didn’t want to be myself. Imagine being 6 years old and feeling this way. Yes,most kids go through the phase of either picking on someone or being the one teased.  Growth is amazing and I’m so glad I’m more confident.  I vow to be the light for some little girl whose light is dim because of the darkness. I express to others to not feel threatened by any woman and simply stand with them and cheer them on.

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5 Tips to be More Confident

1. Know that even though your path may be different, or bumpy. You have the same hours in a day and some of us may have to work harder, but we all still have to work at whoever we want to be, no short cuts.

2. Give more compliments than you receive. I realized for me the more I gave genuine compliments, the more confident I am. which I didn’t need validation of confidence from others.

3. Look in the mirror and say affirmations to yourself. You won’t depend on others to make you confident because that’s something you can give yourself. Such as, “Ebony I love the way you styled your hair today.”

4. Prayer time, but pray for others as well. Say you have a friend who is up for a promotion and you are looking to be promoted in your job as well. Don’t secretly wish you get yours first or hope you don’t get left behind. Pray for your friend. God sees those who remain humble. This also shows you are secure within yourself to know your time is coming when it comes.

5. Take care of yourself. Mentally say and do positive things. Physically, release tension through a physical activity; spiritually connect with God and read your Bible if you are at that point. Also read self-help books…connect with yourself. One of my favorite books, “Write it Down, Make it Happen.” Until Next time my Friends….






  1. Hena Jose
    August 4, 2017 / 9:26 am

    I am a stay at home mom and many a times gets pulled into feeling low. Your tips are great. Thank you for sharing.

    • Ebony S Hinton
      August 4, 2017 / 6:02 pm

      It was my pleasure, I’m mostly an at home mom and I completely understand.

  2. August 4, 2017 / 4:57 pm

    I agree with this completely, I write about positivity and positive affirmations. Positive self-talk can change your confidence completely.

    • Ebony S Hinton
      August 4, 2017 / 6:01 pm

      I very much agree, we believe the things we say. thank you for reading

  3. August 4, 2017 / 6:56 pm

    These are some great tips! When I was younger I could stand in front of the mirror and say how much I hated myself, out loud to my reflection. I’m gonna try to say positive things, just like you said, to my reflection and see if it makes a difference 🙂

    • Ebony S Hinton
      August 6, 2017 / 2:56 am

      affirmations for your self are a must. thank you for reading.

  4. August 4, 2017 / 7:41 pm

    So so true. I think you are definitely on to something with the thinking of others – praying for them, complimenting them. And to not rely on others for confidence. It really needs to come from within and certainly, I can’t do it without God’s help.
    Thanks for the lovely read.

    • Ebony S Hinton
      August 6, 2017 / 2:54 am

      Thank you for visiting and reading 🙂

  5. November 26, 2017 / 1:09 pm

    I love this! Confidence is so hard sometimes. I struggled for so long and I still do now that I’ve put on some pounds. I am working on it and some days are easier than most. I make it a point to tell ladies I see with outfits on point or their nails done, you can tell they appreciate it.

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